I have been thinking heavily about knowing what is right for you and what is not suitable for you? I started to think about this idea lately because I recently went through a transformational season, where I had to take a complete inventory of my life. I had to look at what was serving me and what was depleting me of my energy. I had to be very candid with myself and make an honest assessment. I was removing emotional ties and respectful looking at every relationship, situation, and opportunity with a clear mind. I also looked at what I was running to as an escape, whether it was spending money, eating food, or an addictive substance.
I had to be honest; I was looking at everyone around me. As they pursued the best life and as they shared all of their “w.” I began to think. What is this all about? Is it about showing your greatness, is it about living the happiest life, is it about being rich? What. I honestly think it comes down to people needing to have validation. We all seek it in some form or another, whether through a social media post, a lover, or others’ admiration of us. We are all seeking it out. This leads me to this observation. That through our seeking and desire to have validation, we sometimes get involved in things that are not always the best for us. Yet we are confused because that thing might seem just right.
Now that brings me to my point. You will know them by their fruit.
That goes for everything in your life, including yourself. When I say the self, we can be fooling ourselves into thinking that we are good or thinking that we are doing the right thing when, in fact, the fruit is not good.
Discernment, how do you have this understanding?
“Beware of false prophets, who come to you is sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown in the fire. Therefore by their fruit, you will know them. “
In the passages above, it is clearly stated how to discern good fruit from bad fruit. But I ask you not to only look at something for face value but to pay close attention to everything in your life that influences you; Whether it be a friend, lover, job, business opportunity, or a spiritual teacher. Now here is what I like to do. This exercise has helped me tremendously gain clarity on who and what should hold space in my life.
Draw a circle on a piece of paper.
Then draw another circle around the first circle. You will write in the middle of the process, either a goal you have been trying to attain or just writing my higher self. You will then write out the very thing you are involved in business or person or addiction whatever you want. You will either write it near the inner core of the circle or further outside the ring. Before you write anything, ask yourself if this thing brings me closer or further away from my purpose? Then write it either inside or outside the circle. The exercise above will help you discern what to do without the emotions. Or the confusion and the duality of the things in your life.
Once you do that, you will have more of a clearer vision as to what you need to do. Now it is up to you to make that transition to living in more abundance of joy; by removing or limiting access to the things that are pulling you away from your highest purpose.
Look at the fruit! The results of their outcome in any situation, and you will know.